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Copyright

Dedication

Contents

The story so far …

Monday, 31 May, Bank Holiday, 10.45 pm

Tuesday, 1 June, 7 am

The Greatest Reward

…and Finally in Safe Hands

Foreword

Introduction

one

The Buck Stops Here

But How?

Manners and Respect in the 21st Century – Why We Still Need Them

two

How the Wrong Foods Can Affect Children’s Behaviour, Health and IQ

The Scary Facts

Behaviour and Food

Health and Food

Poor Diet

Too much salt

Too much sugar

Fats

Good fats

Bad fats

Always Read the Label

‘But My Children Love Fizzy Drinks and Snacks’

Getting Off to a Good Start – Breakfast

Exercise

The School Run

Teenagers’ Eating Habits

Comfort Foods

Respecting Other Children’s Dietary Needs

What Children Really Need

three

Love

How to Show Love

Little Things Mean a Lot

four

Discipline

How We Start to Impose Discipline on Our Children

Impose Boundaries

Change your voice and body language

Remember, orders are not negotiable

Create continuity and consistency

Make rules clear and simple

Tell children what you expect of them

Encourage and reward good behaviour

Be firm about poor behaviour

Teach why the word ‘No’ must always mean ‘No’

Remain calm and in control

Dealing with Unsociable Behaviour: 1–4 years old

What to expect

Tantrums (Theirs Not Yours)

The silent tantrum

Trying to avoid tantrums

AVOID ARGUING

RESPONSIBILITY

DISTRACTION

HOW TO AVOID GOING MAD

Whining

Snatching

Aggression – biting, hitting and pinching

WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

Why they are aggressive ANGER AND FRUSTRATION

ATTENTION

FEELING THREATENED

INSECURITY

TOO MUCH ENERGY

FEAR

COPYING

Dealing with Unsociable Behaviour: 5–14 years old

Problem

Possible cause

SOLUTION

Problem

Possible cause

SOLUTION

Problem

Possible cause

SOLUTION

Problem

Possible Cause

SOLUTION

Problem

Possible cause

SOLUTION

Problem

Possible cause

SOLUTION

Problem

Possible cause

SOLUTION

Turning your Children’s Behaviour Around

Take control

5–8 years old

9–14 years old

Crime and Penalties

TV, Videos and Computers

Young children and TV

The alternative

How to limit TV time UNDER 10s

OVER 10s

Swearing

Disciplining Other People’s Children

five

Attention

Positive Interaction between Parents and Children

How to stop negative attention

How to give your children positive attention

Encouragement

Creating a Childhood

Be realistic about expectations for your children

Playing

HIDE AND SEEK

SLEEPING TIGERS

SHARKS

DRESSING UP

CHARADES

Not playing the game

Cooking

Art

Rainy days

Museums

Kite flying

Beach (summer and winter)

Making camps and tents

Winter barbecues

Catching leaves

Picnics

Watch an event

Gardening

Water fights

six

Communication

Encouraging Speech

Reading stories

Building Listening Skills

Bring Back the Family Meal

The hard facts

Invaluable time

What’s the alternative?

How to achieve the modern-day family meal

SINGLE PARENTS

LAYING THE TABLE

THE MEAL

RELAX

Encouraging speech at the table

TELL STORIES

PRAISE AT THE TABLE

LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE

ENCOURAGING LISTENING

TEENAGERS

Table manners

TEACHING TABLE MANNERS

SITTING AT THE TABLE

WHEN ARE CHILDREN READY TO USE A KNIFE AND FORK?

HOW TO USE A KNIFE, FORK AND SPOON

GENERAL POLITENESS AND COURTESY AT THE TABLE

CLEARING UP

TEENAGERS

seven

Routine, Continuity and Consistency

How to Avoid Tears Before Bedtime (Everyone’s)

Why do toddlers keep getting out of bed?

Setting bed and nap times

Establishing a bedtime routine

A relaxing bath

Cuddle and story

Warm milk

Bed

Learning to fall asleep

Crying

Make sure they are tired

Creating Bad Sleeping Habits

TV

Resisting ‘just a few minutes’

Overtiredness

Effects from sleep deprivation

Toddlers refusing to go to bed

THE PAINFUL

THE LESS PAINFUL

Your child (5 to 10 years) is already getting out of bed each evening

IF THEY SAY THEY CANNOT GET TO SLEEP

eight

Example

Teaching Right and Wrong

Stealing

Teaching ownership

Close family relationships

Taking things that do not belong to them – the under 6s

SOLUTION

School-age children

Parents setting a bad example

PREVENTION

To get what they want

PREVENTION

Peer pressure

PREVENTION

Seeking attention

PREVENTION

Because they can get away with it

What to do if your child steals

Teenagers

Lying

White lies

To avoid punishment

PREVENTION

To hide inadequacies

PREVENTION

Peer pressure

PREVENTION

To get what they want

PREVENTION

Lying for attention

PREVENTION

School

PREVENTION

What to do if your child lies

Teenagers’ privacy

nine

Respect

How to Help your Child Develop Self-respect

How to Respect your Children

Getting your Children to Respect you

How Children Develop Respect for their Family

Respecting other People

Respecting their Friends

Respecting your Friends

Respecting Property

Contributing to household chores

Keeping their rooms tidy

How to Respect your Teenagers

Clothes

Health

Drinking

Teenage problems

How to Get your Teenager’s Respect

Good Manners

ten

How to Behave in Public

Restaurants

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Trains and Buses

Cars

Toddlers

School-age children

Airports and Aeroplanes

How to make your travelling less painful

Checking-in

TODDLERS

SCHOOL-AGE CHILDREN

The departure lounge

TODDLERS

School-age children

On the aeroplane

The baggage hall

Public Places

Teenagers

Shops

Supermarkets

IDEAS FOR CHILDREN TO HELP IN SUPERMARKETS

Cinemas and Theatres

Waiting Rooms

Religious Services

THE RECEPTION

eleven

Simple (but Extremely Important) Courtesies

Please and Thank You

From the start

School-age children

Teenagers

By example

Thank-you Letters

Excuse Me

Coughing and Sneezing

Yawning

‘Pardon?’ not ‘Wot?’

Shaking Hands

Opening Doors

Helping with Coats

Paying a Compliment

Apologies

‘I Want’ Never Gets

Reliability

twelve

How to Behave at School

Introduction to Nursery School or Kindergarten

Preparing your children for nursery

First day

Preparing for School

Parent/teacher support

Discipline

What to expect

Respecting adults

Listening skills

Respecting their peers

How to take turns

How to dress and undress

Table manners

Getting involved

Toilet training

Homework

thirteen

How to Survive Christmas

The Week(s) Before Christmas

The Christmas spirit

The Presents

Christmas Eve Evening

What if one sibling no longer believes in Santa?

Problems that may Arise

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Problem

SOLUTION

Watchpoint

Work and Child Care

fourteen

Working Parents

How To Be a Good Working Parent

Only One Parent Home in Time for Supper

Both Parents

Weekend Fathers

fifteen

Child Care – How You Can Still Be in Control

Employing Someone at Home

Continuity

Teaching your nanny how to bring up your children

TANTRUMS

DISCIPLINE

MEALS AND SNACKS

NAPS

THINGS TO DO WITH YOUR CHILD

ENCOURAGING GOOD BEHAVIOUR

TV, VIDEOS, DVDS AND COMPUTER GAMES

ACCIDENTS

SAFETY IN THE HOME

BEDTIME

Changes in Behaviour

School-age Children

TV, videos, DVDs and computer games

Snacks

Meals

Homework

Things to do

Getting ready for bed

How Do I know if my Nanny Does as I Ask?

Final Word

Acknowledgements

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