The Way of Boys电子书

Cover

Title Page

Dedication

Contents

1

Faster Pace Equals Higher Demands

Other Contributing Factors

He’s Just a Boy

2

The Machine

Systems Approach

Differing Responses to Stress

3

Almost Every Boy Is Normal

Social Skills at Play

What’s His Style of Play?

Action Leads to Talk

Encouraging Emotional Awareness

Why Is He Playing Alone?

Socializing in School

Attachment and Separation

Separation Anxiety

4

Impulse Control

Practicing Boundaries at Home

Reading Social Cues

Sharing and Turn Taking

Empathy

Boys Are Empathetic Late Bloomers

What Are Appropriate Social Skills for Young Boys?

Bullying at School: How to Deal with the Bullying Label

What Is a Bully?

Why Is He Doing This?

Strategies for Containing Behavior at School

Setting Reminders

Practicing Calm

Be Patient

5

Energy to Burn

Signs That He’s Not Moving Enough

Activities for Younger Boys

Activities for Older Boys

The Myth of Team Sports

Shouldn’t He Learn to Sit Still?

Practicing Sitting Still

Get Outside

Causes of Movement

6

What’s Wrong with Time-outs?

Take It Away

Detention: The New Time-out

Time-Away Is Better Than Time-out

What if He Won’t Stay Put?

Wild Things

It’s Not Just a Punishment

Diana’s Story

The Long View

7

What Is Competition Good For?

Age-Appropriate Games

Keep It Fun

How Boys Learn About Winning and Losing

The First Loss

Losing Gracefully—or Not at All

The Battle Against Disappointment

Cheating Is Developmental

What About Athletic Games?

Older Boys Who Struggle with Competition

8

What’s Good About Being Bad?

Role Playing

Violent Toys

How Much Is Too Much?

Rules for Joining In

How to Set Limits

When He Crosses the Line

Why Consequences Work

He’s Not Ready

When He Obsesses

The Link Between Bad Guys and Fear

Bad Boy Play Long Term

9

Growing Up Isn’t Easy

He Wants to Be the Best

He Won’t Leave My Side

The Empathy Check

Where Have I Seen This Before?

I Hate You

The Mini-Manipulator

Learning Self-Talk

An Anger Plan

Give Him Headlines

10

Why School Isn’t a Good Fit

Boosting His Behavior at School

The Short Course in Behavioral Adjustment

Making Home More Like School

Relating to the Teacher

Practice Adult Empathy First

Making the Home-School Connection

Talking to Your Son

Take the Direct Approach at Home

Labels Aren’t Always the Answer

Techniques for Home and Classroom

Keep the Relationship Positive

Problems Are Often Situational

The Pressure to Fix It

The End of Summer

11

When Is Testing Helpful?

When Is Testing Not Useful?

When Testing Goes Awry

What’s an IEP, Anyway?

Ignore Diagnostic Language

If They Say Your Son Needs Testing

Listen Even if You Don’t Agree

Know Your Own Style

The Parent-Teacher Conference

Keep Track of What’s Said

Updates from Home

Communication Breakdown

Intervention-Style Meetings

Practice Moderation

But I Don’t Want Him Tested

Useful Accommodations

When to Refuse Accommodations

Changing Schools

Getting More Support and Help

12

The Criteria of a Symptom

Tracking His Behavior-Is It a Real Problem?

What Are the Tests?

Other Tests You May Encounter

What’s the Rush?

What a Diagnosis Fails to Say

Get a Second Opinion

Medication

Sadness and Anxiety

What About Placebo Effects?

13

Brett-the Boy in Charge

Kenny—Mr. Inflexible

Ben-the Worrier

Ronny-Mr. Meltdown

Some Final Thoughts

Acknowledgments

References

Searchable Terms

About the Authors

Credits

Copyright

About the Publisher