When Society Becomes an Addict电子书

Contents

Acknowledgments

I. THE ADDICTIVE SYSTEM

Introduction

Looking Back at Women’s Reality

A Personal Odyssey

Defining Terms

Addiction

System

Relationship Addiction as a Model for the Addictive System

The Addictive System and Co-Dependence

The Characteristics of Co-Dependence

Co-Dependence as Part of the Overall System

II. THE ADDICTIVE SYSTEM AS A HOLOGRAM

Introduction

Self-Centeredness

The Illusion of Control

Crisis Orientation

Depression

Stress

The Medical Model

Dishonesty

The Three Levels of Lying

The Three “Ifs” of the Addict

Tacos, Paperclips, Purses, and Shells

Dishonesty as the Norm Within the Addictive System

Abnormal Thinking Processes

Abnormal Thinking Processes in the Addictive System

Assumptions

Confusion

The Role of Confusion

Denial

Perfectionism

Forgetfulness

Dependency

The Hostage-Captor Relationship

The Scarcity Model and the Zero-Sum Model

Negativism

Defensiveness

Denial and Projection as Defense Mechanisms

Communication and Countercommunication

Responsibility and Blame

Tunnel Vision

Frozen Feelings

Ethical Deterioration

Fear

The Addictive System as an Illusionary System

Summary

III. PROCESSES OF THE ADDICTIVE SYSTEM

Introduction

The Process of the Promise

The Process of Absorption/Pseudopodic Ego

The Process of Illusion

The Process of the External Referent

The Process of Invalidation

The Process of Trashing/Fabricating “Personality Conflicts”

The Process of Dualism

Lincoln Logs

Fear and Control/Dependency and Control

Self-Centeredness

Shame

Greed

Dishonesty

Repression and Obsession

Worthlessness

Judgmentalism

Self-Depreciation and Envy

Blame and Irresponsibility

Prickishness and Neediness

Analysis and Paralysis

Fear and Anger

Win and Lose

Hopelessness and Perfectionism

Arrogance and Going One-Down

Cynicism

Enabling and Ignoring

Male and Female

The Power of the Process

Seeing What We See, Knowing What We Know

Implications of What It Means That We Live in an Addictive System

Summary

IV. TOWARD RECOVERY AND HEALING

Whole-System Recovery

The Role of Naming

The Addictive Process: Closing Notes

Paradigm Shift/Systems Shift

The Hologram in Action

Sobriety, Process, and Spirituality

Notes

About the Author

Praise

Credits

Books by Anne Wilson Schaef, Ph.D.

Copyright

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