Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.This bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these: How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or deadWhen is forgiveness cheapWhat is wrong with refusing to forgiveHow can the offender earn forgivenessHow do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?
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Cover
Title Page
Dedication
Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Part One
Part Two
Part Three
Part Four
What you, the offender, must do to earn...
What you, the hurt party, must do to Grant...
Appendix
Notes
Bibliography
Searchable Terms
About the Authors
Praise
"Books by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D. with Michael Spring"