When Someone You Love Needs Nursing Home, Assisted Living, or In-Home Care电子书

Cover

Title Page

Table of Contents

Dedication

Preface

1 - The Invisible Army

Eldercare Myths and Misperceptions

A Framework for Caregiving

2 - When Someone You Love Just Can’t Make It Alone: Signs and Symptoms, ...

Common Signs of Functional Decline

What Factors Contribute to Functional Decline?

Distinguishing Temporary Decline from Long-Term Deterioration

Getting Your Loved One to See the Doctor

Getting Your Loved One to See a Mental Health Professional

The Emotional Side of Caregiving: Changing Roles

Caregiver Stress and Its Effects

Coping with Stress Before It Overwhelms You

3 - In-Home Care: Autonomy, Continuity, and a Bit of Extra Help

Finding and Funding Good In-Home Care

Who May Provide In-Home Care?

How to Evaluate an Agency or Provider

The Trial Period

When More Than One Person Needs Care

When Problems Arise During In-Home Care

Signs of Abuse, Neglect, or Exploitation

Reporting Abuse, Neglect, or Exploitation

4 - When In-Home Care Becomes Impossible: Screaming, Crying, Fighting...and ...

Talking About Options with Other Family Members

Raising the Issue with the Care Receiver

Common Care-Receiver Objections

Recognizing and Accepting the Person’s Fears

Developing a Partnership with the Care Receiver

When Your Loved One Is Determined to Disagree

The Concept of Competency

If You’re in Charge

5 - Choosing the Right Placement Setting: Thinking Clearly in the Midst of Chaos

Varieties of Placement Settings

Continuing Care Communities

Obtaining Information About a Specific Setting

Inspecting the Facility

Funding: Who Pays for What?

What If We Run Out of Money?

Must the Nursing Home Get It All?

6 - Leaving Home for the Nursing Home: Preparing for the Dreaded Day

Psychological Preparations

What to Pack (and Leave Behind)

Legal Preparations

Funeral Arrangements

Financial Preparations

Preparing the House

7 - Anxiety, Anger, Fear, and Guilt: Adjusting to the New Situation

Common Reactions to Placing a Family Member in a Nursing Home

Adjusting to the Nursing Home: The Resident’s Perspective

Building New Routines in a Changing Relationship

Visits in the Nursing Home

The Off-Grounds Pass

Leaving and Returning: Practical Considerations

Staying Connected Between Visits

8 - Confrontation or Partnership—It’s Up to You: A Down-and-Dirty Guide to ...

Nursing Home Staff: The Cast of Characters

Interfacing with Staff: Your Arenas of Influence

Constructive Interventions: How to Get What You Want (and Be Loved While You’re ...

When Complaining Is the Only Way

9 - Old Age Ain’t for Sissies: Late-Life Medical Problems and How to Deal with Them

The Aging Body: Different Parts Work at Different Speeds

Common Medical Problems in Older Adults

Why Treat It If You Can’t Make It Better?

10 - A Realistic Approach to Behavior Problems: No More Peeing in the Petunias

Behavior Problems: Causes and Treatments

Common Behavior Problems in Nursing Home Residents

Hidden Factors That Set the Stage for Problems

Knowing When to Call In the Experts

The Suicidal Nursing Home Patient

Maintaining a Good Relationship with the Troubled Loved One

11 - When Things Get Better: The Transition Back Home

Discharge Settings

Discharge Planning Meetings

The Nuts and Bolts of Discharge: Three Key Tasks

Legal and Financial Arrangements, Revisited

Making the Home Safe and Secure

12 - When It’s Time to Let Go: Hospice and Beyond

The Pros and Cons of Aggressive Interventions

The Hospice Option

Emotional Reactions to the End of Life

Physical Changes at Life’s End

Grieving Your Loss

Epilogue

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Checklists, Worksheets, and Resources

Index

About the Authors

Copyright Page