Как удачно выйти замуж - этот вопрос волнует огромное количество молодых девушек и женщин. Найти свою половинку мечтают все. Но, к сожалению, далеко не всем выпадает счастливое замужество. В этой книге я рассказываю о моем пути изменений, которые привели к позитивным событиям в моей личной жизни. Я вышла замуж за один месяц после знакомства. Знаю, что девушкам будет полезна эта информация, так как я посещала различные тренинги по личному развитию и женственности. Именно поэтому я и решила поделиться с читательницами моим опытом. Мы должны научиться сначала любить и заботится о себе, прежде чем будем принимать и дарить свою любовь другим людям. Сейчас, я могу ответить на вопрос о замужестве: Я вышла замуж, чтобы улучшить свое качество жизни и подарить счастье мужчине. Счастье - это внутреннее состояние. Его можно развивать. Но чтобы достичь его, необходимо постоянное саморазвитие, которое заключается прежде всего в действии! Я выделяю 4 этапа на пути к счастью: Благодарность Прощение своих родителей Женственность Изменение своих жизненных стандартов Единственное счастье в жизни – это постоянное стремление вперед. То, что вы думаете о себе и о своей жизни, определяет почти все то, что происходит с вами. Ваша первичная обязанность - взять свое мышление под полный контроль и четко направлять свои слова и мысли на то, чего вы действительно хотите. Одновременно, вам нужно отказаться думать о тех вещах, которых вы не хотите. Эта простая формула - настоящий ключ к здоровью, счастью и личному процветанию. И тогда в вашей жизни очень скоро появится тот, на чье плечо вы сможете склонить голову, точно зная, что в ответ получите ту нежность и заботу, которую вы несомненно заслуживаете. Об авторе Родилась в городе Харькове на Украине. Закончила Национальную Юридическую Академию Украины имени Ярослава Мудрого по специальности Правоведение с красным дипломом. Написала 5 научных статей при кафедре финансового права Национальной Юридической Академии Украины имени Ярослава Мудрого. Занятие юридической наукой имело значительное влияние на мою литературную деятельность и обогатилo меня истинными знаниями, которые являлись направляющими в жизни. Успешно сделала карьеру – начальник юридического отдела в налоговой инспекции. Счастлива в браке. * * *

Що в?дбува?ться, коли ми стика?мося з чимось нев?домим та суперечливим? Чому прагнемо за будь-яких умов уникнути плутанини ? знайти однозначну в?дпов?дь? У книз? Джейм? Голмза по-новому осмислено роль неоднозначност? в нашому житт?, розглянуто, як р?зн? обставини посилюють нашу потребу в завершеност?. Автор поясню?, як ми осяга?мо св?т, пережива?мо напружен? житт?в? кол?з?? ? як це вплива? на наш? р?шення. У ситуац?ях, як? кидають нам виклик, неоднозначн?сть може допомогти нам розвинути в соб? винах?длив?сть ? досягти усп?ху.???Нонсенс? – свого роду спроба пояснити, як ми п?зна?мо св?т й прийма?мо р?шення. Автор не обмежу?ться загальною теор??ю, а на конкретних прикладах розгляда?, як? небезпеки приховують невизначен?сть ? неоднозначн?сть, та як можна використати ?х соб? на користь.??

…mi hajtja a géniuszokat? Szeretnéd tudni, mit tanulhatsz a t?rténelem nagyjaitól, hogy a legt?bbet hozd ki magadból? Ha igen, vár rád egy kaland. Sean Patrick k?nyve hatalmas sikert aratott a tengerentúlon. Ha elolvasod, tizenegy bámulatos elme életébe pillanthatsz be. Megtudhatod, mi hajtotta ?ket, és hogyan alakította az életüket egy-egy jellemz? tulajdonság. Látni fogod t?bbek k?z?tt, hogyan indult útjára Walt Disney stúdiója, miként vált egy karddal játszó kisfiúból a hódító Nagy Sándor, vagy hogyan lett Nikola Tesla a megannyi nehézség ellenére az elektromosság atyja. A kiválóság nem adottság, hanem egy út, amire Te is ráléphetsz. Mondj ?IGEN!”-t a saját kalandodra, és ébreszd fel a benned rejl? géniuszt!

Looking back to those days of old, ere the gate shut behind me, I can see now that to children with a proper equipment of parents these things would have worn a different aspect. But to those whose nearest were aunts and uncles, a special attitude of mind may be allowed. They treated us, indeed, with kindness enough as to the needs of the flesh, but after that with indifference (an indifference, as I recognise, the result of a certain stupidity), and therewith the commonplace conviction that your child is merely animal. At a very early age I remember realising in a quite impersonal and kindly way the existence of that stupidity, and its tremendous influence in the world; while there grew up in me, as in the parallel case of Caliban upon Setebos, a vague sense of a ruling power, wilful and freakish, and prone to the practice of vagaries--"just choosing so:" as, for instance, the giving of authority over us to these hopeless and incapable creatures, when it might far more reasonably have been given to ourselves over them. These elders, our betters by a trick of chance, commanded no respect, but only a certain blend of envy--of their good luck--and pity--for their inability to make use of it. Indeed, it was one of the most hopeless features in their character (when we troubled ourselves to waste a thought on them: which wasn't often) that, having absolute licence to indulge in the pleasures of life, they could get no good of it. They might dabble in the pond all day, hunt the chickens, climb trees in the most uncompromising Sunday clothes; they were free to issue forth and buy gunpowder in the full eye of the sun--free to fire cannons and explode mines on the lawn: yet they never did any one of these things. No irresistible Energy haled them to church o' Sundays; yet they went there regularly of their own accord, though they betrayed no greater delight in the experience than ourselves. On the whole, the existence of these Olympians seemed to be entirely void of interests, even as their movements were confined and slow, and their habits stereotyped and senseless. To anything but appearances they were blind. For them the orchard (a place elf-haunted, wonderful!) simply produced so many apples and cherries: or it didn't, when the failures of Nature were not infrequently ascribed to us. They never set foot within fir-wood or hazel-copse, nor dreamt of the marvels hid therein. The mysterious sources--sources as of old Nile--that fed the duck-pond had no magic for them. They were unaware of Indians, nor recked they anything of bisons or of pirates (with pistols!), though the whole place swarmed with such portents. They cared not about exploring for robbers' caves, nor digging for hidden treasure. Perhaps, indeed, it was one of their best qualities that they spent the greater part of their time stuffily indoors. To be sure, there was an exception in the curate, who would receive unblenching the information that the meadow beyond the orchard was a prairie studded with herds of buffalo, which it was our delight, moccasined and tomahawked, to ride down with those whoops that announce the scenting of blood. He neither laughed nor sneered, as the Olympians would have done; but possessed of a serious idiosyncrasy, he would contribute such lots of valuable suggestion as to the pursuit of this particular sort of big game that, as it seemed to us, his mature age and eminent position could scarce have been attained without a practical knowledge of the creature in its native lair. Then, too, he was always ready to constitute himself a hostile army or a band of marauding Indians on the shortest possible notice: in brief, a distinctly able man, with talents, so far as we could judge, immensely above the majority. I trust he is a bishop by this time,--he had all the necessary qualifications, as we knew.These strange folk had visitors sometimes,--stiff and colourless Olympians like themselves, equally without vital interests and intelligent pursuits: emerging out of the clouds, and passing away again to drag on an aimless existence somewhere out of our ken. Then brute force was pitilessly applied. We were captured, washed, and forced into clean collars: silently submitting, as was our wont, with more contempt than anger. Anon, with unctuous hair and faces stiffened in a conventional grin, we sat and listened to the usual platitudes. How could reasonable people spend their precious time so? That was ever our wonder as we bounded forth at last--to the old clay-pit to make pots, or to hunt bears among the hazels. It was incessant matter for amazement how these Olympians would talk over our heads--during meals, for instance--of this or the other social or political inanity, under the delusion that these pale phantasms of reality were among the importances of life. We illuminati, eating silently, our heads full of plans and conspiracies, could have told them what real life was. We had just left it outside

In the Complete Horoscope CAPRICORN 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Capricorn, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Capricorn and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: CAPRICORN 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

n the Complete Horoscope: VIRGO 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Virgo, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Leo and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: VIRGO 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

n the Complete Horoscope: AQUARIUS 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Aquarius, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Leo and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: AQUARIUS 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

In the Complete Horoscope: SAGITTARIUS 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Sagittarius, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Leo and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: SAGITTARIUS 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

In the Complete Horoscope: LEO 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Leo, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Leo and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: LEO 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

In the Complete Horoscope PISCES 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Pisces, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Pisces and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: PISCES 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

In the Complete Horoscope: ARIES 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Aries, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Aries and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: ARIES 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

In the Complete Horoscope: TAURUS 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Taurus, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Taurus and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: TAURUS 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

In the Complete Horoscope: GEMINI 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Gemini, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Gemini and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: GEMINI 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

In the Complete Horoscope: CANCER 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Cancer, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Cancer and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: CANCER 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

n the Complete Horoscope: LIBRA 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Libra, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Leo and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope LIBRA 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

In the Complete Horoscope: SCORPIO 2020, leading astrologer Tatiana Borsch shares with you her forecasts on major everyday issues; career and business, finances, family and romantic relationships and health. In her look ahead to 2020 for Scorpio, Borsch includes a general annual forecast for Leo and a detailed monthly forecast that helps you to recognize auspicious occasions, to seize good luck, to avoid trouble and resolve conflicts, to organize personal affairs and to achieve professional success. Also included is a Zodiac compatibility guide to help you with relationships that are happy and not so happy. This Complete Horoscope: SCORPIO 2020 features guidance from the astrologer and gives you an insight into what lies in store for you in the turbulent year of the metal rat. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tatiana Borsch is a well-known Russian astrologer and the author of twenty-eight astrological almanacs and horoscopes. She has prepared a general forecast for each sign of the Zodiac every year since1992. She currently lives and works in Moscow where she writes astrological columns for popular Russian publications and is the founder and director of the AstraArt television company.

The following pages contain certain rules and suggestions concerning health, and certain simple and sensible ways in which it may, we hope, be acquired and maintained at a very small expense of time and self-denial, by a large number of people who are naturally accustomed to feel not very well. The book is founded on notes made by its two authors who, though they lead for the most part very different lives, are agreed on certain broad principles of health herein set forth. ??One of them, for instance, eats largely of flesh-foods every day, the other has scarcely touched meat for years. But both are accustomed to feel extremely well and to undertake considerable exertion either of mind or body without experiencing any fatigue. One of them takes regular exercise, that is to say he plays an out-door game on most days of his life, while the other who abstains from flesh-foods has little practice of the sort. He will take no out-of-door exercise for several days, work very hard, and find himself perfectly fit for some severe physical test at the end. But they are both agreed that if the one abandoned flesh-foods (which he does not propose to do) he would cease to require regular exercise, and that if the other took flesh-foods (which he does not propose to do) he would not only be very ill, but would also require regular exercise. ??One again is seldom seen without some appliance of tobacco in his mouth, because he finds it agreeable and after an experiment of abstinence from it found that it did not make any difference, as far as he could make out, in his general health. The other never smokes at all. One again takes a cold bath in the morning, the other a hot one followed by cold sponging.??But both are absolutely in accord on far more main points than those on which their practice, at any rate, differs, and they have found it perfectly easy to write this book together without wrangling, on which account they wish to express a pious hope that the very fact that they differ in so many things may have saved them from dogmatism. For it has helped them to realize that even when they are agreed on any point it would be a sheer stupidity to hint that they were therefore right, and in consequence they only put forward the points on which they are agreed as suggestions, hoping that others after trial may also agree with them. ??For universal laws on an empirical matter like health are rare, and the constitutions of men are various. One man’s meat, in fact, is literally another man’s poison. But in the main the two authors are agreed. They believe that the majority of mankind habitually eat too much and habitually take too much stimulating food and drink. They believe also that most people who do so do not take enough exercise, and that either an increase of exercise or a decrease of stimulant is needed. ??They believe that the best sorts of exercise are not those of slow pushing movements such as are made in the use of dumb-bells, but full brisk extended movements, with much use of the breathing apparatus and the large muscle areas of the body. Similarly they are in accord as regards present systems of training which tend to treat an entire crew or team as if they were identical specimens, not as widely different specimens; in every day life also they hold that because a certain mode of diet and work suits A, it will not necessarily suit B and C, though B and C might do worse than try it.

It is an acknowledged fact that we perceive errors in the work of others more readily than in our own.?—Leonardo da Vinci??In this Beginner's Psychology I have tried to write, as nearly as might be, the kind of book that I should have found useful when I was beginning my own study of psychology. That was nearly thirty years ago; and I read Bain, and the Mills, and Spencer, and Rabier, and as much of Wundt as a struggling acquaintance with German would allow. Curiously enough, it was a paragraph in James Mill, most unpsychological of psychologists, that set me on the introspective track,—though many years had to pass before I properly understood what had put him off it. ??A book like this would have saved me a great deal of labour and vexation of spirit. Nowadays, of course, there are many introductions to psychology, and the beginner has a whole library of text-books to choose from. Still, they are of varying merit; and, what is perhaps more important, their temperamental appeal is diverse.?I do not find it easy to relate this new book to the older Primer,—which will not be further revised. There is change all through; every paragraph has been rewritten. ??The greatest change is, however, a shift of attitude; I now lay less stress than I did upon knowledge and more upon point of view. The beginner in any science is oppressed and sometimes disheartened by the amount he has to learn; so many men have written, and so many are writing; the books say such different things, and the magazine articles are so upsetting!

PSYCHOLOGY is generally considered to be the science of mind, although more properly it is the science of mental states—thoughts, feelings, and acts of volition. It was formerly the custom of writers on the subject of psychology to begin by an attempt to define and describe the nature of mind, before proceeding to a consideration of the subject of the various mental spates and activities. But more recent authorities have rebelled against this demand, and have claimed that it is no more reasonable to hold that psychology should be held to an explanation of the ultimate nature of mind than it is that physical science be held to an explanation of the ultimate nature of matter. ??The attempt to explain the ultimate nature of either is futile—no actual necessity exists for explanation in either case. Physics may explain the phenomena of matter, and psychology the phenomena of mind, without regard to the ultimate nature of the substance of either.??The science of physics has progressed steadily during the past century, notwithstanding the fact that the theories regarding the ultimate nature of matter have been revolutionized during that period. The facts of the phenomena of matter remain, notwithstanding the change of theory regarding the nature of matter itself. ??Science demands and holds fast to facts, regarding theories as but working hypotheses at the best. Some one has said that "theories are but the bubbles with which the grown-up children of science amuse themselves." ??Science holds several well-supported, though opposing, theories regarding the nature of electricity, but the facts of the phenomena of electricity, and the application thereof, are agreed upon by the disputing theorists. And so it is with psychology; the facts regarding mental states are agreed up-on, and methods of developing mental powers are effectively em-ployed, without regard to whether mind is a product of the brain, or the brain merely an organ of the mind. ??The fact that the brain and nervous system are employed in the phenomena of thought is conceded by all, and that is all that is necessary for a basis for the science of psychology.

Annyit már most nyugodtan elmondhatok, hogy akárcsak A n? cím? k?nyvnél - amely alapjában véve nem csupán a n?r?l szólt -, menet k?zben már itt is tudtam, láttam, hogy ez a k?nyv sem tisztán csak a férfiról fog szólni. Szerettem volna sok mindent beletenni a férfiasság kérdésér?l, a b?ntudat megoldásának az elkezdésér?l, a gyászról, halálról, búcsúról, elengedésr?l, virágokról, ?nmagamról. Tényleg sok mindent. Válaszokat egy sor kérdésre. Felvetéseket a pasikkal kapcsolatosan. Hogy például "miért élt a párom nyolc hónapig egy másik csajjal párhuzamos életet mellettem, mik?zben azt bizonygatta, hogy mennyire szerelmes belém?" A minap kaptam egy ilyen e-mailt! ?pp karácsonykor robbant szét a dolog... Amikor ez a k?nyv készült, k?rbetelefonáltam egy csomó pasit, akit ismerek. A tinédzserekt?l kezdve az ?tvenesekig valamennyiüknek ugyanazt a kérdést tettem fel: mit?l érzik magukat férfinak. A kérdésre, hogy mit?l érzik magukat férfinak, a pasik egy jelent?s része azt felelte, hogy ezen ?k még soha nem gondolkodtak, és ez a kérdés eléggé meglepetésszer?en érte ?ket... Holott a n?k esetében az utóbbi ?t-tíz év másról sem szólt, mint hogy definiálják, mi az, hogy n?... ?gy t?nik, ezek olyan dolgok, amelyekr?l a pasik általában nem beszélnek. Vagy csak nagyon felületesen. Magáról a férfilétr?l... Azért nem, mert "ez teljesen magától értet?d?", hogy az illet? férfi. Fel sem merül, hogy ezt bármi megkérd?jelezhetné..."

n voltam a legautentikusabb rock and roll fej a nyolcvanas években” – állítja magáról Dénes József, ismertebb nevén Dnci, a pesti underground fenegyereke. Dolgozott nyomdai segédmunkásként, ltzrként és knyvárusként is, de elssorban mégiscsak gitáros volt. Számára a zene jelentette az életet. m amikor érezte, hogy kzeledik az utolsó dal, lecsavarta az ersítt, és befelé kezdett fülelni. s írt egy knyvet. A hetvenes-nyolcvanas évek jassznyelvén, prédikátori éleslátással az igazán lényeges dolgokról. A gyógyszerezs korszakról, a Kassák klubos bandákról és a Hit Gyülekezetében eltlttt éveirl. A Sváb- és a Szabadság-hegyrl, Amszterdamról, Nagy-Britanniáról, és arról, milyen jó volt mégis mindig visszatérni a golyóluggatta, málló ferencvárosi falak kzé. Arról, milyen érzés volt bekerülni a pasarétiek” zenekarába, és miképp ismerkedett meg a szakállas szürkeállománnyal”. Arról, mi trténik, ha egy férfi úgy istenigazából beleszeret egy nbe, és micsoda, ha a n már nem szereti tbbé. Legfképpen pedig arról, képes-e beilleszkedni egy rk kívülálló bármilyen kzsségbe, vagy kilkdik, mint a br alá fúródó szálka Lehetünk-e egy életen át szkésben Hogy mennyire ismerjük fel a kztünk él zsenit, dntse el a hálás utókor. Víg Mihály Dnci, a zeneszerz, a gitárvirtuóz. Az echte ferencvárosi pestisrác. Az érz, intellektuális hajlamú keres, a mosókonyhai levegj munkássorról. Dnci, az egyetlen, aki kzülünk akkor igazán zenélni tudott, akitl magam is tanulgattam. Dnci, a barát. Az intézeti múlt mély sebei miatt néha másokon is sebeket ejtett, mégse lehetett rá hosszan haragudni. Végül tán ez a kihordhatatlan fájdalom rántotta vissza t ugyanabba a spirálba, amibl a ’80-as években már egyszer kiszabadult. Dnci, akinek a fél-háromnegyed árvaság szántotta át lelkét. Az éhez-szomjazó, aki meglep értelmi képességeivel kitrni készült hátterébl. Dnci, akit a rácsok újra maguk mgé zártak. Megtudtam, hogy végül mégse menthetetlenül. Az utolsó pillanatban szíve még kifért a résen, hogy befogadja Magyarország fltt az ég. Mert megvan írva: Aki az r nevét segítségül hívja, az megmenekül.” Pajor Tamás Dnci a barátom volt. Minden mondatából kihallom tudásszomjas, érzékeny, megszállott, esend, karcos hangját. Mint amikor Bachot játszott konokul a gitárján, a Mester u. 46-ban, a gangra nyíló konyhában az intézetbl frissen szabadult fiú. Pontos, tiszta, szép, szinte, kíméletlen. Egy korszak lenyomata. Forgách András