Procesul hipnotic este unul complex ?i variat ca tr?iri, care de-a lungul timpului ?i-a dovedit eficien?a ?n psihoterapie. Volumul de fa?? porne?te de la ideea c? hipnoza reprezint? o metod? adjuvant? cu caracter dinamic ?n contextul terapeutic. Caracteristicile legate de identificarea unui anume nivel de sugestibilitate, al?turi de manifest?rile tr?ite ?n stare de trans? vor avea ecou diferit, ?n func?ie de fiecare client, c?t ?i de situa?ia pe care acesta o aduce ?n cadrul terapeutic.Volumul "Hipnoza ?n psihoterapie" contribuie la literatura de specialitate cu rezultate ale unora dintre ultimele cercet?ri ?n domeniu, prezint? modele inedite de scenarii de induc?ie hipnotic? ?i de ad?ncire a transei, precum ?i studii de caz elocvente pentru o serie de tulbur?ri ?i de conjuncturi ?nt?lnite ?n cabinet. Este structurat ?ntr-o parte teoretic? ?i o parte practic?, av?nd numeroase exemple ce atest? aplicabilitatea hipnozei ?n multiple afec?iuni. Ca noutate, lucrarea de fa?? abordeaz? hipnoza ?n situa?ii precum na?terea, infertilitatea, dependen?ele, stima de sine sc?zut?, afec?iuni oncologice, tulbur?ri de stres postraumatic ?i nu numai. Volumul se adreseaz? ?n primul r?nd speciali?tilor ?i apoi publicului larg, cu inten?ia de a-l familiariza cu acest instrument de lucru activ ?n psihoterapie, care a fost ?i r?m?ne hipnoza.

Deseori, cei care solicit? ajutorul unui psihoterapeut nu sunt doar ?n c?utarea unor solu?ii pentru conflictele care ?i fr?m?nt?, ci simt c? au nevoie de un nou ?nceput pentru c? undeva, ?n interior, exist? un defect care trebuie reparat, un defect care a ap?rut ?n rela?iile cu ceilal?i. ?n Defectul fundamental, M. Balint ofer? at?t o descriere a personalit??ii umane ?n termeni rela?ionali, ?n care aceast? arie a defectului fundamental ??i are un loc definit de rela?iile bipersonale primare, c?t ?i o ilustrare a modalit??ii de a repara acest defect fundamental ?i de a oferi pacientului ?ansa unui nou ?nceput. Pentru autor, defectul fundamental reflect? consecin?ele actuale ale unor experien?e traumatice timpurii ?n rela?ia bipersonal? care pot fi retr?ite ?i vindecate pe cale analitic?, chiar dac? vindecarea las? o cicatrice. ?n abordarea sa, Balint recunoa?te importan?a aportului ambilor participan?i pentru rezultatul tratamentului ?i atrage aten?ia asupra contribu?iei terapeutului la desf??urarea procesului terapeutic. Pentru a crea atmosfera necesar? desf??ur?rii acestui proces, este necesar ca terapeutul s? fie flexibil emo?ional ?i s?-i permit? pacientului s? regreseze la nivelul defectului fundamental pentru a reveni, apoi, capabil s? aib? o rela?ie de obiect diferit?, mai matur?, cu cei din jur.

Prin ce difer? cre?terea b?ie?ilor de aceea a fetelor? Sunt predispu?i b?ie?ii no?tri afla?i la pubertate sau la adolescen?? s? intre ?n mai multe buclucuri dec?t fetele de aceea?i v?rst?? Cum ne putem ajuta fiii s? str?bat? cu bine aceste perioade ?i s? se maturizeze f?r? a le ?tirbi masculinitatea ?n devenire??ntr-o societate ?n care femeile sunt considerate categorie marginalizat? ?i privite ca poten?iale victime, b?ie?ii, ulterior b?rba?ii, ajung s? fie privi?i ca poten?iali agresori. Astfel, discrepan?a social? nu se reduce, ci se ad?nce?te. Cum ar fi, ?ns?, ne propune autorul acestei c?r?i, s? pornim de la premisa c? b?ie?ii sunt structura?i diferit, c?, de-a lungul mileniilor, au evoluat av?nd nevoi, scopuri ?i comportamente diferite de cele ale fetelor? ?n loc s? ?ncerc?m s?-i schimb?m, ?ncadr?ndu-i ?ntr-un tipar feminin, putem ?ncepe prin a-i ?n?elege ?i a le oferi acel cadru de dezvoltare de care au nevoie pentru a deveni b?rba?ii pe care ni-i dorim: puternici, protectori, devota?i.?

Ce ne ?ndeamn? s? r?vnim la acele lucruri care nu ne apar?in, devenind invidio?i, sau chiar s? ni le ?nsu?im uneori, nesocotind, astfel, unul dintre principiile morale esen?iale? Avem oare de-a face cu un atribut uman primar, mai mult sau mai pu?in ?mbl?nzit de-a lungul veacurilor??n mituri ?i basme, furtul ?i pierderea sunt prezente ca mecanisme declan?atoare ale unor serii de evenimente fatidice sau, din contr?, ca germeni ai unei noi stabilit??i, superioar? celei anterioare. Trec?nd dincolo de simpla nara?iune a acestora, cartea de fa?? ne dezv?luie, printr-o fin? analiz? psihologic?, aspectele, motiva?iile, ra?iunile interioare ale ho?iei, acelea care scap? adesea privirii moralizatoare, precum ?i ?n?elesurile ascunse ale pandantului s?u, pierderea.Ho?ul interior este o lectur? util? ?i ?n acela?i timp pl?cut? pentru psihologi, psihoterapeu?i, asisten?i sociali, avoca?i ?i, totodat?, pentru to?i aceia care doresc s? ?n?eleag? ra?iunile ascunse ale comportamentelor respinse, ?n general, de societate.?Un mit esen?ial despre ho?ie este povestea L?nii de Aur. Aceast? legend? are cel pu?in 3000 de ani ?i reprezint? o prim? ilustrare a furtului unui lucru de pre?. [...] Studiind acest mit, vom vedea c? Iason, eroul compromis, se comport?, ?n parte, ca un adolescent care ?nc? nu s-a maturizat ca b?rbat, ca un t?n?r ce consider? c? i se cuvinte totul ?i care nu-?i poate recunoa?te limit?rile. Viitoarea sa so?ie, Medeea, ??i ucide mai t?rziu copiii f?cu?i cu Iason, pentru a evita ru?inea pierderii statutului ei ?i pentru a-?i afirma propria idee de justi?ie ?n fa?a nedrept??ii lui Iason, pe care ea o resimte ca pe o priva?iune. ?ns? lunga lor poveste mai con?ine ?i o alt? ?ntrebare: c?nd ho?ia opre?te brutal procesul de individuare?“ – Robert TyminskiSt?team ?n cabinetul meu de la ?coal?, c?nd a intrat o profesoar? ?i mi-a spus: ?A f?cut-o din nou.? Am ?ntrebat cine a f?cut-o din nou, iar ea mi-a replicat: ?Kyle. A furat ceva din po?eta mea,dar una dintre celelalte profesoare l-a prins dup? aceea, c?nd ?ncerca sa ascund? ce a luat ?n ghiozdan.? Am ?ntrebat ce furase ?i mi-a r?spuns: ?Rujul. La fel ca data trecut?.? A continuat: ?E un ho? de farduri. Din toate lucrurile de furat, el e obsedat de farduri. M?car ?tim, ?n sf?r?it, cine tot lua rujurile.? La vremea aceea, Kyle avea doar 5 ani.“ – Robert Tyminski

O via?? lung? ?i s?n?toas? pentru copilul t?u, dup? modelul japonezPotrivit unei analize recente publicate de prestigioasa revist? The Lancet, copiii din Japonia sunt cei mai s?n?to?i din lume. Naomi Moriyama s-a hot?r?t s? descopere secretele acestui succes. C?l?torind ?mpreun? cu b?iatul ei mic, Naomi a intervievat oameni de ?tiin?? din Japonia ?i SUA ?i a cules informa?ii de la m?micile japoneze.A rezultat un ghid revolu?ionar ?i cu o mare valoare practic?, sfaturile oferite ajut?nd la adoptarea unor obi?nuin?e alimentare ?i a unui stil de via?? care ?i vor ajuta pe p?rin?i s? ob?in? rezultatele dorite ?n cre?terea copiilor. ?Recomand?rile sunt logice, u?or de pus ?n practic? ?i bazate pe ?tiin??, intui?ie ?i tradi?ie. Sunt ?n concordan?? cu convingerea mea c? este nevoie s? ne ?ntoarcem la legile fundamentale ale s?n?t??ii, care ne ?ndeamn? s? dormim bine, s? m?nc?m ce ?i c?t trebuie, s? facem mi?care ?i s? evit?m toxinele." - Prof. Mark Tremblay, Spitalul pentru copii din Ontario, Canada?Rodul unei document?ri meticuloase, aceast? carte fascinant? ??i merit? locul ?n biblioteca oric?rui p?rinte." - Dr Lucy Cooke, cercet?tor principal ?n cadrul Facult??ii de Epidemiologie ?i S?n?tate Public?, University College, Londra

Trei fo?ti ofi?eri CIA, autorit??i interna?ionale ?n detectarea disimul?rii, v? ofer? un set de tehnici accesibile pentru a afla dac? vorbitorul din fa?a voastr? spune sau nu adev?rul. Fie c? realiza?i un interviu de angajare sau o anchet? judiciar?, fie c? vre?i s? afla?i dac? adolescentul vostru a consumat droguri ori dac? partenerul v? ?n?al?, ave?i acum la dispozi?ie un arsenal de ?ntreb?ri ?i tehnici de interpretare care ?i-au dovedit eficien?a chiar ?i ?n fa?a celor mai versa?i spioni ?i terori?ti. Baz?ndu-se pe analize complexe ale unor anchete de contraspionaj sau ale unor interviuri televizate cu politicieni pref?cu?i, cartea v? ?nva?? s? pune?i cele mai percutante ?ntreb?ri ?i s? identifica?i minciuna pornind de la semnele ei verbale (ezit?ri, generaliz?ri, apelul la divinitate) ?i nonverbale (mutarea centrului de sprijin, acoperirea fe?ei cu palma etc.). ?Arta ?n?el?ciunii este tema principal? a acestei c?r?i, care se adreseaz? unui spectru larg de speciali?ti: psihologi, avoca?i, judec?tori, procurori, poli?i?ti, investigatori, oameni de afaceri, oameni de v?nz?ri etc.“ – Ion Duvac, fondator al Psychological Profiler Academy

Tehnici simple ?i amuzante pentru ?mbun?t??irea memoriei Ui?i mereu unde ??i la?i cheile? Nu mai ?tii zilele de na?tere ale prietenilor, iar atunci c?nd ??i este prezentat cineva ?i ui?i imediat numele? ??i aduci aminte c? trebuie s? mergi la o ?nt?lnire dup? ce a ?nceput deja? Dac? primul lucru la care te g?nde?ti ?n urma acestor constat?ri este c? te vei trezi ?n cur?nd ?ntr-o lume f?r? amintiri, temerea ta este nefondat?. Nu ?i-ai pierdut min?ile, ci doar cheile, iar ?ntre timp ai g?sit cartea care te poate ajuta s? ??i ?mbun?t??e?ti memoria ?i s? ??i ?nt?re?ti capacitatea mental?. Pornind de la cele mai recente cercet?ri ?n domeniu, autorii ne ofer? explica?ii clare despre modul ?n care func?ioneaz? memoria. Creierul uman este un organ mult mai complex, mai flexibil, mai maleabil ?i mai u?or de re?nnoit dec?t se credea. Ca ?i ?n cazul mu?chilor, antrenarea creierului poate duce la rezultate extraordinare. Cele 8 capitole ale lucr?rii sunt u?or de parcurs ?i con?in cele mai eficiente instrumente de ascu?ire a memoriei. Exerci?iile practice, sfaturile ?i trucurile ne ?nva?? cum s? ne concentr?m mai bine, at?t la procesul de codificare a informatiilor, c?t ?i la procesul de recuperare a lor din amintire. Prin cre?terea capacit??ii de a re?ine lucrurile importante pentru noi, se ?mbun?t??e?te garantat ?i calitatea vie?ii. A?adar, dac? ai ?ndoieli ?n leg?tur? cu eficien?a memoriei tale sau ??i dore?ti, pur ?i simplu, s? re?ii lucrurile cu mai mult? u?urin??, ai ?ncredere ?n Doctorul memoriei! Specialitatea lui sunt amintirile clare, complete ?i de durat?.

V? ?ngrijoreaz? apatia partenerului din ultima vreme? V? irit? zg?rcenia prietenilor? Sau v? ?nfurie nep?sarea colegilor de birou?Fie c? e vorba despre minusurile observate la al?ii sau de propriile defecte, cartea de fa?? v? invit? s? explora?i ?i s? integra?i ?ntr-un mod constructiv ?i s?n?tos toate aceste aspecte de ?umbr?“ ale vie?ii voastre.Folosind concepte psihologice accesibile (proiec?ie, rezonan??, polaritate), Ruediger Dahlke demonstreaz? prin exemple din realitatea curent? ?n ce fel pute?i transforma sl?biciunile ?n puncte forte ?i asperit??ile interpersonale ?n oportunit??i de cre?tere. G?ndirea ?n ?alb ?i negru“ va fi astfel ?nlocuit? de o con?tientizare a nuan?elor ?i multiplelor ?fe?e“ ale vie?ii, oferind cititorului ?ansa de a ac?iona mai ?n?elept, mai pu?in tensionat, cu acel echilibru specific persoanelor care ?i-au reg?sit centrul.

Rela?ii interpersonale intense ?i haotice, accese de furie, impulsivitate, amenin??ri cu abandonul sau cu suicidul… dup? ce ai cunoscut ?ndeaproape o astfel de persoan? r?m?i adesea cu un gust amar ?i cu ?ntrebarea: ?Unde am gre?it?" ?n spatele acestui tablou ?nnegurat, se afl? ?ns? drama protagonistului – temeri profunde, o senza?ie de vid interior, ne?ncredere fundamental? ?n sine.Lumea unui ?borderline" este ?n alb ?i negru, acut?, direct?, f?r? nuan?e, cu at?t mai impresionant?, cu c?t ace?ti oameni sunt capabili s? duc? o via?? func?ional?. Pot fi partenerul de cuplu, colega de serviciu, amicul din copil?rie.Cartea de fa??, bazat? pe informa?ii din cele mai noi cercet?ri ?n domeniu, reprezint? un ghid cuprinz?tor prin h??i?urile acestei personalit??i aflate la grani?a dintre nevroz? ?i psihoz?. Scris? ?ntr-un limbaj accesibil, ea se adreseaz? at?t terapeu?ilor, c?t ?i publicului larg, aduc?nd lumin? asupra posibilelor cauze ale acestei tulbur?ri, descriindu-i plastic tr?s?turile prin intermediul a numeroase exemple, ajut?ndu-te s? ?n?elegi persoana cu borderline de l?ng? tine ?i s? creezi pun?i c?tre ea.Cea mai important? parte a oric?rei terapii este rela?ia dintre pacient ?i terapeut. Aceast? interac?iune formeaz? baza ?ncrederii, constan?ei obiectului ?i a intimit??ii emo?ionale. Terapeutul trebuie s? devin? o figur? de ?ncredere, o oglind? care s? reflecte o identitate coerent? ?n dezvoltare. Pornind de la aceast? rela?ie, persoana borderline ?nva?? s? extind? ?i asupra altora a?tept?rile adecvate ?i ?ncrederea. – Jerold Kreisman, Hal StrausAspectul fizic al lui Jennifer la ?edin?ele de terapie fluctua dramatic. C?nd venea direct de la serviciu era ?mbr?cat? ?ntr-o ?inut? business, eman?nd maturitate ?i rafinament. Dar ?n zilele ei libere, ap?rea ?n pantaloni scur?i, cu ?osete p?n? la genunchi ?i cu codi?e ?mpletite; ?n aceste ?edin?e se comporta ca o feti?? cu voce sub?ire ?i vocabular mult mai limitat. Uneori se transforma chiar sub ochii doctorului Gray. Putea fi plin? de intui?ie ?i inteligent?, colabor?nd pentru ob?inerea unei mai bune ?n?elegeri de sine, iar apoi devenea o copil? cochet? ?i seduc?toare, declar?ndu-se incapabil? s? func?ioneze ?n lumea adult?. – Jerold Kreisman, Hal Straus

nvturile lui Osho, unul dintre cei mai cunoscui lideri spirituali ai secolului XX, rstoarn tiparele clasice de gndire, provocndune la o permanent punere sub semnul ntrebrii a certitudinilor i la un proces de contientizare de sine.Crile din seria Incursiune ntrun nou mod de via prezint viziunea lui Osho privind cele mai importante probleme pe care i le pun oamenii interesai de tiina transformrii de sine i de o spiritualitate adaptat la provocrile cotidiene ale vieii contemporane.

The following pages contain certain rules and suggestions concerning health, and certain simple and sensible ways in which it may, we hope, be acquired and maintained at a very small expense of time and self-denial, by a large number of people who are naturally accustomed to feel not very well. The book is founded on notes made by its two authors who, though they lead for the most part very different lives, are agreed on certain broad principles of health herein set forth. ??One of them, for instance, eats largely of flesh-foods every day, the other has scarcely touched meat for years. But both are accustomed to feel extremely well and to undertake considerable exertion either of mind or body without experiencing any fatigue. One of them takes regular exercise, that is to say he plays an out-door game on most days of his life, while the other who abstains from flesh-foods has little practice of the sort. He will take no out-of-door exercise for several days, work very hard, and find himself perfectly fit for some severe physical test at the end. But they are both agreed that if the one abandoned flesh-foods (which he does not propose to do) he would cease to require regular exercise, and that if the other took flesh-foods (which he does not propose to do) he would not only be very ill, but would also require regular exercise. ??One again is seldom seen without some appliance of tobacco in his mouth, because he finds it agreeable and after an experiment of abstinence from it found that it did not make any difference, as far as he could make out, in his general health. The other never smokes at all. One again takes a cold bath in the morning, the other a hot one followed by cold sponging.??But both are absolutely in accord on far more main points than those on which their practice, at any rate, differs, and they have found it perfectly easy to write this book together without wrangling, on which account they wish to express a pious hope that the very fact that they differ in so many things may have saved them from dogmatism. For it has helped them to realize that even when they are agreed on any point it would be a sheer stupidity to hint that they were therefore right, and in consequence they only put forward the points on which they are agreed as suggestions, hoping that others after trial may also agree with them. ??For universal laws on an empirical matter like health are rare, and the constitutions of men are various. One man’s meat, in fact, is literally another man’s poison. But in the main the two authors are agreed. They believe that the majority of mankind habitually eat too much and habitually take too much stimulating food and drink. They believe also that most people who do so do not take enough exercise, and that either an increase of exercise or a decrease of stimulant is needed. ??They believe that the best sorts of exercise are not those of slow pushing movements such as are made in the use of dumb-bells, but full brisk extended movements, with much use of the breathing apparatus and the large muscle areas of the body. Similarly they are in accord as regards present systems of training which tend to treat an entire crew or team as if they were identical specimens, not as widely different specimens; in every day life also they hold that because a certain mode of diet and work suits A, it will not necessarily suit B and C, though B and C might do worse than try it.

In this special edition of James Allen's classic, As a Man Thinketh, you will learn how to use the power of thought to bring success and happiness into your life. You will discover that you are the creator of the conditions in your life, good and bad, and you can change those conditions by changing the way you think. Bestselling authors Dale Carnegie, Norman Vincent Peale, and others were heavily influenced by Allen's writings, and Inc. Magazine praised Allen's book as "one of the top 10 motivational books of all time." Success coach Tony Robbins says it is his favorite book, and he has read it a dozen times. This Classic Edition was developed for a course at Virtual University by Richard De A'Morelli, a best-selling author and editor with deep experience in the self-help field. Most versions of Allen's book are unedited reprints of his 1903 work, but this collector's edition includes the full text of the book, updated and restyled for today's readers, plus helpful tutorials reviewing key points in each chapter. A bonus chapter offers daily meditations from James Allen's popular book, Meditations for Every Day of the Year. The wisdom of James Allen provides a foundation for living well and being happy in today's hectic world. Whether this is your first exposure to his writings or you are already a fan, this special edition is must reading. Available as an ebook and in paperback (ISBN 978-1-988236-10-0). Add it to your library and give as a gift to your friends who may benefit from this wonderful message of hope and empowerment.

Misterul st?rne?te uimire, iar uimirea ?l face pe om s? vrea s? ?n?eleag?. – Neil ArmstrongAu existat cu adev?rat Atlantida ?i Lemuria? Cine a construit piramidele ?i ?n ce scop? C?t de avansat? era tehnologia culturilor antice?La aceste ?ntreb?ri ?i la multe altele cartea de fa?? ??i propune s? ofere r?spunsuri prin intermediul unor adev?rate autorit??i ?n domeniu.Erich von D?niken, celebrul autor al bestsellerului interna?ional Amintiri despre viitor, examineaz? piramidele egiptene, studiindu-le implica?iile astronomice ?i mesajele pe care erau menite s? le transmit?.Temerarul explorator al Americii antice, Frank Joseph, se ocup? de scandalurile arheologice ?i tentativele de suprimare a dovezilor, printre care ?pierderea“ de c?tre Muzeul Smithsonian’s a craniilor maya?e descoperite ?n insulele Aleutine.Philip Coppens, unul dintre comentatorii seriei Ancient Aliens de la History Channel, exploreaz? re?eaua celtic? de drumuri care poate fi pus? ?n leg?tur? cu o reproducere veche de 4 000 de ani a Atlantidei, realizat? pe sol.Savantul ?i exploratorul de mistere Oberon Zell-Ravenheart adun? laolalt? Gr?dina Edenului, Arborele Vie?ii, marele potop biblic, ?ncerc?nd s? descifreze misterul scufund?rii Lemuriei.Marie D. Jones ?i Larry Flaxman exploreaz? teoriile antice despre sunet ?i rezonan?? ?i ipoteza folosirii acestora ?n construirea megali?ilor ?i a piramidelor, precum ?i ?n atingerea st?rilor modificate ale con?tiin?ei.Jurnalistul Nick Redfern dezv?luie interesul st?ruitor al autorit??ilor SUA pentru trecutul nostru str?vechi, misterele religiei ?i artefactele enigmatice.Dovezi privind aceste mistere antice sunt pretutindeni – dac? ?tii ce s? cau?i.

Un volum incitant de care nu se pot lipsi adolescen?ii, elevii, studen?ii, profesorii, acest indirect dic?ionar de vise ?i destine reprezint? o carte necesar?, c?ci ?ndeamn? la cunoa?tere de sine. Acest studiu-eseu interdisciplinar con?ine valoroase trimiteri la Freud, Nietzsche, Aristotel ?i al?i g?nditori – eventuale modele ?n epoca tranzi?iei sufocat? de acultura?ie ?i de modele de o calitate ?ndoielnic?.

The silence must be broken… ? Each year, thousands of men, women, and children suffer domestic violence. For many, it’s far too long to live in this kind of silence. How much devastation must we see in individuals, families, and communities before we realize that someone… anyone… everyone must take a stand? Featuring stories & accounts from domestic violence survivors & family members. Also included is information regarding types of abuse, why victims stay, awareness months, & a personalized safety plan. Domestic violence has the potential to destroy everything it touches, but there is a solution. Stand up, speak up, and break the silence!

Since ancient times, the boundless stellar sky has attracted our gaze and thoughts. Its magnificent beauty and great mysteries have always been awakening eternal philosophical questions in our hearts — about the Universe and our place in it, about the nature and purpose of our existence.What does the Universe as a whole represent? How is it organized? By what laws does it abide? How does the Cosmos affect the events occurring on the Earth? Are we alone in the Universe? Is there life somewhere else?The Lord of Love and Compassion invites you to open wide the wings of your spirit and embark on a spiritual flight across the vast expanses of the Universe to find answers to all these questions. Book 4 of The Teaching of the Heart series will reveal the depths of the Universe, enabling your heart to experience the delight of limitless possibilities and to touch the currents of unknown Distant Worlds.From this incredibly exciting journey through the Stellar Ocean, you will return to the Earth a completely different person, with a new worldview and understanding of your destiny not only on this planet, but also in the Universe. Are you ready to embark on a flight?

letünk biztonsága trékeny, nem élhetjük le veszteségek nélkül. Le kell mondanunk remek munkahelyekrl, kedves barátokról, st, talán meghitt otthonunkról, megtaláltnak hitt szerelmünkrl, értékes egészségünkrl, szeretett hozzátartozónkról. Sokan, akiket súlyos veszteség ért, mindent szívesen eldobnának, ha visszakaphatnák, amit elveszítettek. Mások azonban egy id után úgy tekintenek ezekre a fájdalmas trésekre, mint szükséges fordulatokra, amik tovább terelték ket sorsuk kiteljesedése felé. A Veszteségek ajándéka cím knyvben emberek mesélik el élettrténetüket, akiket súlyos csapások értek, de hosszabb-rvidebb id után felismerték, hogy ezeket hogyan fordítsák nmaguk megersítésére, fejlesztésére. Ezek a trténetek ert adnak, utat mutatnak nekünk. Jó lenne megtanulnunk, hogy ne csupán megkeseredett túléli legyünk saját életünk kisebb-nagyobb veszteségeink vagy olykor tragikus eseményeinek, hanem képesek legyünk észrevenni és elfogadni mindezek ajándékait is. Ha ez sikerül, akár mások támaszai is lehetünk, olyanoké, akik még nem tudtak rálépni a megersdés svényére

A n?i szexualitás és a n?k saját testéhez való viszonyában kulcselem a bizonytalanság. Sosem tudhatom igazán, hogy éppen mi t?rténik bennem. A bizonytalanságból pedig egyfajta szorongás fakad: ha nem hiszek magamban, nem hiszek a testemben, akkor máshol kell keresnem a biztonságérzetet. De nincs is abban semmi meglep?, hogy nem tanulunk meg ??nállóan” viszonyulni a testünkh?z, hiszen a mindennapi élet szintjén születésünk pillanatától kezdve kül?nb?z? társadalmi intézmények gyakorolják a kontrollt a testünk felett. El?sz?r el kell sajátítanunk, mi mindent kezdhetünk a testünkkel, ha megsz?nnek az azt uraló autoritások. Azonban ez meglehet?sen bonyolult. Hiszen nem tudjuk magunkat egy csapásra függetleníteni a társadalomtól és annak intézményeit?l – az orvoslástól, a pszichológiától, a pedagógiától, a médiától – a világtól, amelyben élünk. Nem beszélve arról, hogy a szex testi vonatkozásai mellett jogos igényként merül fel bennünk az intimitás, a szerelem vagy épp az elfogadás vágya. A menstruáció, az orgazmus, a várandósság, a szülés, a gyermekágy, a szoptatás vagy a menopauza látszólag biológiai t?rténései éppúgy hatással vannak az ?nértékelésünkre, párkapcsolatunkra, mint a családi életünkre. Ráadásul a fejünkben mítoszok élnek arról, hogy mi a normális. Ahelyett, hogy a saját vágyainkat, ?r?münket, intimitásunkat élnék meg, vélt vagy valós elvárásoknak próbálunk megfelelni. Pedig a szexben nincs jó vagy rossz. Ez a k?nyv is ebben a szellemben íródott, n?k ezerféle arcát szeretné megmutatni. Mester Dóra Djamila N?, anya, szeret?, amat?r fotós, k?zgazdász, hobbikertész, társadalomkutató és szexedukátor. Egy ?szex-pozitív” misszió aktivistája. K?zépiskolákban, diákotthonokban kamaszokkal beszélget szexr?l, szerelemr?l; személyes konzultációkat tart, rádióm?sort vezet, ír és beszélget, ahol csak lehet. Ahogy magáról állítja, ?hangosan gondolkodik a szexr?l”, és minden lehetséges fórumon kísérletezik egy nyitott, el?ítélet-mentes és alapvet?en pozitív szexbeszéd megteremtésével.

Amikor egyszer csak azzal szembesülsz, hogy elkap egy mindenféle tünetekkel járó rosszullét, még fogalmad sincs róla, hogy valami olyasmi veszi kezdetét, ami hónapokra, évekre vagy akár évtizedekre is meghatározza majd az életedet. Csak id? kérdése és a rohamok megismétl?dnek, egyre gyakoribbá válnak, szép lassan úrrá lesznek rajtad és átveszik a hatalmat a sorsod felett. El?sz?r még te magad sem hiszed el, hogy mindez veled t?rténik. Valami, amir?l azt mondják pánik(betegség), egy sz?rny? fenevad, rád talált, utolért, beléd bújt, a részed lett és pokollá akarja tenni vagy már azzá is tette az életedet. Ett?l kezdve ugyanis nem te parancsolsz neki, hanem ? neked. Nem tudsz elbújni vagy elmenekülni el?le, mert ott van benned, a saját testedben és a lelkedben. Ha ?r?kre meg akarsz szabadulni t?le, egy életre szóló feladat vár rád, talán életed legnagyobb kihívása ez. Mindenekel?tt el kell d?ntened, hogy képes vagy rá és tudnod kell, hogy valami nagy változásra van szükséged. Ha el akarod felejteni mindazt a sok szomorúságot, kellemetlenséget, fájdalmat és rosszat, amire ezen túl még csak emlékezni sem akarsz, meg kell változnod. A változáshoz semmi másra nincs szükséged, csakis ?nmagadra. Ha úgy d?ntesz, te vagy az er?sebb és legy?z?d minden mutációjával együtt, tudnod kell az el?tted álló út nemcsak hosszú és magányos, de meglehet?sen nehéz, és gy?trelmes lesz, sok ?nfegyelmet és alázatot kíván majd. De cserébe ígérem, talán sok-sokévnyi sikertelen próbálkozás után, az alagút végén te is meglátod a fényt. A fény felé haladva egyre határozottabban látod majd a megoldást, élvezed a sikert, legy?z?d a korlátaidat, és újra kinyílik számodra a világ. Amikor a magamfajta szerencse fia, rátalál a saját pokolból kivezet? útjára, egy id? után egyre világosabban látja, merre kell mennie, és mit kell tennie nemcsak hogy saját magát, de sorstársait is gy?zelemre segítse. Csakis így nyerhet értelmet az életében miden szenvedés, zsákutca vagy kanyar… Szóljon hát ez a k?nyv segítségül mindazoknak, akik velem együtt megjárták a pánik, ama legmélységesebb bugyrait, amit leggonoszabb ellenségeimnek sem kívánnék, ha egyáltalán lennének ilyenek!

Valljuk be, majdnem mindannyian hajlamosak vagyunk az ?nsajnálatra. ?gy hisszük, a legnagyobb baj mindig velünk t?rténik. Nos, ha valamiért szomorú vagy – esetleg elhagytak, megcsaltak, becsaptak vagy elárultak –, és elolvasod ezt a k?nyvet, hidd el, fel fogod tenni magadnak a kérdést: Miért sírok, miért szomorkodom?! Hozzájuk képest hálás lehetek a sorsnak… Ha éppen valamilyen párkapcsolati problémával küzdesz, biztosan találsz a k?nyvemben olyan t?rténetet, amely rímel a mostani gondjaidra. Megtudhatod, mások hogyan oldották meg – vagy hogyan rontották el – azt a bizonyos élethelyzetet. Talán segít felismerni a megoldást, és nem k?veted el ugyanazt a hibát, amit ott és akkor másvalaki már elk?vetett. Igaz a mondás: okos ember más kárán tanul. Nos, ebb?l a k?nyvb?l tanulhatsz b?ven… Megtanulhatod, hogyan lehet a teljes kiszolgáltatottságból felállni, egy t?nkrement életet újraépíteni, elgyászolni az elgyászolhatatlant, elengedni életed legfontosabb szerepl?jét, ahogy megtanulhatod azt is, hogyan rombolhat a legnagyobb szeretet, milyen mélységekbe taszíthat a szegénység, vagy hogy miként lehet újra bizakodni életünk romjain. A regényírók fantáziája végtelen, ám a legnagyobb mesemondó mégiscsak az élet. Aligha olvastál még olyan csavaros, izgalmas, megrázó t?rténeteket, mint ezek itt. Talán, mert ezeket a t?rténeteket tényleg az élet írta. ?n csak papírra vetettem. Tizenegy igaz t?rténet. Tizenegy d?bbenetes sors. Tizenegy ember, aki képes volt újrakezdeni az életét. Szeretettel, Kata

B?rbatul care caut? s?-?i reg?seasc? mama ?n partenerele sale este etichetat imediat drept ?b?ie?elul mamei“. Iar despre femeia care prefer? s? umble doar cu b?rba?i mult mai ?n v?rst? se spune c? n-a reu?it s? se ?desprind? de tat?l ei“. De?i, ini?ial, complexele materne ?i paterne se dezvolt? ca un r?spuns pozitiv ?n rela?ia cu p?rin?ii, aceste leg?turi extrem de str?nse pot deveni un obstacol pentru maturizarea psihic?, mai precis pentru felul ?n care ne construim o imagine de sine, pentru rela?iile de cuplu, dar ?i pentru eficien?a ?n profesie.Format? ?n psihologie analitic?, Verena Kast descrie c?ile prin care ne putem elibera de impactul negativ al acestor complexe (materne ?i paterne), rec??tig?ndu-ne autonomia, fericirea ?i bucuria intimit??ii al?turi de cei dragi.Meritul c?r?ii este c? ofer? o descriere sistematic? a complexelor parentale (discutate ini?ial de Jung) ?i c?, spre deosebire de conota?iile patriarhale freudiene, revalorizeaz? complexul matern, asociat ?n prip? exclusiv cu o semnifica?ie negativ?.Desprinderea la timp de complexele personale materne ?i paterne este esen?ial?. Multe probleme din domeniul rela?iilor personale, dar ?i din acela al zonei politice ?in de faptul c? desprinderile necesare nu s au produs. Scopul procesului de desprindere ar fi s? ?nv???m s? sim?im propriile noastre afirma?ii —?n loc de afirma?iile mamei ?i ale tat?lui —, propriile noastre sentimente fa?? de o anumit? situa?ie, ?n locul sentimentelor care deriv? din complexe.No?iunea de ?complex“ este fundamental? ?n psihologia jungian?. Nu e de mirare c? ?n descrierea analizan?ilor revin necontenit observa?ii precum: ?El are un complex matern pozitiv“. Sau: ?Ea are un complex patern extrem de dominant“. La astfel de complexe se refer? mereu psihologia jungian?, descriind cazuri individuale sau ?ncreng?turi de cazuri; complexele materne ?i paterne ?ns? nu au fost ?nc?, dup? ?tiin?a mea, prezentate ?ntr o perspectiv? de ansamblu. Este ceea ce a? vrea s? recuperez prin aceast? carte.“